Are you in a custody battle? Read this! I have close friends that are in a custody battle and watching what they have gone through is honestly heartbreaking. It has definitely been an adventure – that is for sure! If you are in a custody battle, learn what you need to make sure that you win:
Meet Your Ex In The Middle
Even if you do not want anything to do with your ex, or co-parent, meeting your ex in the middle and cooperating with them will demonstrate that you are only looking out for the well-being of your child. A judge will 100% be more sympathetic if both parties are working together, with one goal in mind because the willingness of each parent to support and facilitate the children’s ongoing relationship with the other parent is important to the court. Judges want to know that neither of you will stand in the way of your children’s relationship with your ex. Likewise, they won’t look favorably on parents that bad-mouth their spouse in front of the kids or interfere with visitation in any way. No matter what side you’re on, showing an unwillingness to work with your ex will only hurt you in the long run. I definitely understand not wanting to work with them, especially if there is bad blood and ill feelings, but please try your best to be civil and meet them in the middle.
Do Your Research
Next up: do your research! You will have a much better chance in a custody battle (or really, any court case!) if you prepare yourself beforehand. Make sure you learn about everything that you can when it comes to family laws in your place/city/state of residence. Gather any necessary documentation that you might need in court, as well. Most importantly, be prepared for whatever might come your way and know your facts. How can you get an upper hand? I say 1) hire a GREAT attorney that will help lead the way and 2) also hire a private investigator that is local to New Jersey, such as, Cowan Investigations.
Bob Cowan, owner of Cowan Investigations, is the former Chief of Police of Jersey City, New Jersey’s second-largest municipal police department. Bob has a thirty-five-year background in NJ law Enforcement, and has extensive experience in the practical application of laws pertaining to child custody such as child endangerment/child abuse, domestic violence, and juvenile law. “Recognizing the gravity of such issues, Bob directly participates in and oversees all child custody investigations. Receiving assistance from a seasoned New Jersey private investigator who is versed in all applicable NJ laws is exactly what private citizens all across New Jersey, including Bergen, Monmouth, Mercer, Ocean, and Middlesex Counties, NJ, need.”
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Perception Is Everything
In the court of law, it is all about how you LOOK. They do not know the real you and they can’t just take everyone’s word. So, it’s all about how you look to them. Do not do anything that might show you as an unfit parent. Make sure to keep your job, stay away from drugs and alcohol, show up to work and to the court on time, and look presentable! Most importantly, do not lash out during court. Keep your cool!
Consider Your Living Circumstances
If you want custody of your kids, make sure your living situation reflects that you’re able to provide a stable physical environment—sharing your cousin’s bachelor pad won’t go a long way toward convincing the court you’re the fittest parent, for example. Judges are flexible about accommodations, but be prepared to show that you can provide a home with enough space for you and your children. If your spouse resides in the family home and you have to find new accommodations, consider a location that’s in close proximity to theirs. The court likes maintaining the status quo, so the less a child’s daily routine is disrupted, the better.