Lately I have been doing some reflection on of all things- back to when I was planning my and David’s wedding back in 2007! In case you didn’t know- David and I had a very whirlwind relationship- We met In January, got engaged in February and Married in June- All in the same year! I also had a wedding dress that I had gotten an amazing deal on at a thrift shop several months before we even met. It was just too good of a deal, and fit perfectly so I had to have it ($17 for those who are curious!) David and I were working at the Salvation Army family store at the time, and we only had a few months to plan it- well it was a little bit overwhelming at times!
I guess you can say though, my mom kind of became our wedding planner and everything really did come together quite nicely- We actually ended up doing the wedding on fathers day weekend of that year, which also ties in with a big family event that we have every year at that time that we call decoration at my grandparents in virginia- it is a big thing where the family from up north even comes together to decorate the graves of our passed family members and have a huge dinner and what not. With doing it this weekend – we already knew that family would def. be there and food was pretty well covered! Really, you just threw in a cake(which one of my dads relatives does that sort of thing and she donated our cake!) and a few small touches and it tied in quite nicely.
My mom is an awesome planner and she is a jack of all trades in general – the woman gardens ,cans food, quilts, sews, crafts, coupons, etc but when it comes to the wedding – I mean she did wedding favors, invitations , my garters -flowers -ring bearer pillow- everything you can think of she took care of it. I have to say I probably wouldn’t have known where to even start! I know that we kind of just went and bought a few things and she threw it all together. I couldn’t even begin to name all that she did!
David’s family waited until last minute to not show up, which well..even after 12 years I don’t really know how to really talk about that in a nice way… his brother was supposed to be the best man, and as luck would have it, my family was having a little bout of drama at the time and my cousin was supposed to be my maid of honor- she didn’t get to show up so..we kind of had to improvise and use other family members. I guess, I just hate that David was unrepresented, but my family has really taken a liking to David almost immediately so he got the better end of that deal!
I think one of the reasons I have been thinking about everything lately is I get hung up watching those crazy shows where the bride absolutely flips out before the wedding and such and I’m like WOW- I mean I get how that planning a wedding can be super stressful- sure… and I even know how things can start to go wrong a little bit too- but I am glad I was NOT like that! I am glad that things were so taken care of and that things went pretty smooth with all considered- I mean when my cousin didn’t come I did cry because of the circumstances why she didn’t come- the only one that came from that part of the family was her brother – which I am glad he got to come but then that uncle didn’t come or his wife at the time ( really , I can’t call her my aunt because she wasn’t one to me really ..) but I had a little cousin named Abbey who was 6 at the time and she was just so precious to me about it, it made me feel better!
Another reason that I have been thinking about all this lately is-David and I have talked about doing a renewal thing. I guess we should have done it at 10 years.. or at 12 years- which is this year.. but I am thinking that maybe we do it for our 13th because we are just odd like that – I would hold out till our 15th but I get worried about some people that I would like to be there, that if I wait too long might not be there because of health reasons 🙁 This go around I should be able to be more involved though with planning, and I think it might even be easier this go around because we have done it before! I would probably just go small and have it be the immediate family. I still don’t anticipate David’s people showing up, and I know my cousin won’t because she doesn’t even associate with the family now- and I would probably just have it be my mom’s family but.. these are just some preliminary thoughts!
There were a few things I had wished that I had at our wedding that I didn’t have- like I would have LOVED to have someone that made a video-I don’t know HOW that didn’t manage to take place but back then people really didn’t have smart phones and such but I would have thought someone would have brought a video camera , so it is something that got overlooked. There are so many awesome things you can use now when you are planning these sorts of events like using hashtags and social media and even things like Special Guest App ! I know that our wedding wasn’t that long ago but it feels like with the advances in technology that we got married in the ice age!
Also, this time around I have decided I want to do a church wedding if at all possible. I either want to do it at my grandmas church with her old preacher or – if we had to I could go to the church that he pastors at now- I just think because they are really small country churches that it would be really nice…especially when we had an outside wedding in june and my great uncle was reading the entire bible to us and we were about to pass out from the heat.
Other than that, I can’t really think of anything that I would change or add right off the top of my head, but I am sure that as things were to start becoming a reality that might change! If we do want to do one next year I guess I need to start planning on that soon, that way we have plenty of time and everything! I know that I cannot fit into my dress anymore and I would LOVE To be able to so there is that as well.
If we do end up doing a vow renewal though, I would love to blog about the process – for some reason reflecting on the wedding and different things from the past always make the best and most fun things to blog about for me- and I think that this would also mix things up a bit. I know that when we got married, like I say social media wasn’t that big of a thing and I didn’t have time to really blog about things so.. we will see how it goes! 🙂 who knows, I might get inspired and go back and reflect on this topic some more and in more details so 🙂
