This post is super brought to you by me having a ton of time on my hands to think about old times lately! I could write more in depth stuff at some point- because that is something I have wanted to bring to the blog, I just haven’t because I – I really don’t know why but.. you might see more posts that are kind of about the old times and being reflective and such in the near future!
When I was younger, I actually was pretty tame by most peoples standards – I think that was because I totally came off as “bookish” and just generally sweet and innocent- I have been told I have a very innocent face before, and have even confessed to certain things and people have thought I was just joking and being silly. I do tend to be a joking sort of person, and very sarcastic so, I guess I can see that!
I think that what most people were the most shocked about, was that I basically had 3 guy “friends” at one time (most people thought that it was basically just a friends sort of situation)back when I was going to community college. The funny thing is I read novels now a days called reverse harem novels and they are pretty new on the scene- but that is basically how I was back in the day!
It started out innocent enough when I met M back in the fall of 2003 and by the summer of 2004 things had taken a turn towards a friends with advantages sort of situation. He was a very mentally abusive twit that I to this day have strong negative feelings about. According to him I was just his “little friend” and I let that go on for FAR longer than I like to admit! Technically we did STUFF and he was first but…
In the fall of 2004, about a month after M and I first did stuff I met Jason. I am using his full name because we are still best friends, and I still hang out with him to this day- and it doesn’t bother me in the least to just use his name! He might even read this post so.. Anyways.. as soon as he first asked to sit with me in astronomy class I was floored and *finally* let him take me out about a week later and well.. we will just say things happened that I didn’t even think would happen and in my mind the V card goes to him-I won’t get into graphic details but I remember something specific about it that in my mind makes that so!
I went back and forth with M and Jason until the Fall of 2005 when I met T randomly at MCDONALDS of all places- everyone always thinks that it is super cute we met there- and that was a SUPER crazy relationship. Out of all the boys he was the one that didn’t mind saying that he was my boyfriend and he actually treated me quite well and we had tons of fun together- he did know about the others and he was fine with all of it.
Jason & T were always super careful with us doing things and I super appreciated that – M however was NOT that careful and I have had many pregnancy scares thanks to him! I had super messed up cycles back in the day and I would actually bleed forever or not bleed at all for months at a time. I had girl times so bad that I would actually have to get Jason or T to come over to school to help get me back to my apartment because the pain was so bad and bleeding so heavy!
After I came back home in Summer of 2006 I didn’t really see T anymore, M and I weren’t really getting along very well (I pretty much had him cut out for the most part ) and things with J were starting to be the way that I had always hoped they would be (of course they would, that boy and me have been at cross purposes for the entire time we have known eachother- ) and I was literally trying to get a job and get back up to Boone to finish school and see where that went and BAM hello I met David! After I met David I never did see the other guys anymore- with the exception of Jason and that was more than fine with me.
This is the time however, that it was time for me to get THE PILL refilled and they wouldn’t refill it unless I went in for an exam. How annoying right? I mean in a way it was- but in other ways I understood and it was actually a good thing that I went when I did. I had been on the pill since I was in 6th grade to help with my girly times more than anything (even though it still didn’t help the way it probably should seeing as how I would bleed forever or not at all still!)
This is the time when I first learned how important it is to be super safe when you are doing stuff with guys, no matter who they are and what they are telling you. Your Sexual Health isn’t something that you should let anyone put you at an unnecessary risk and I had done that – Sure Jason and T always used protection. I have this whole funny story about my mom coming up to help me re-arrange my room and Jason had left a condom wrapper in my windowsill and I barely grabbed it before she saw it! However MARK was NEVER safe with me , not even ONE time!
Turns out I had HPV and the beginning stages of cervical cancer- Here I was finally going straight and being with only one guy and getting married and everything and I now had to deal with this on top of everything else! It was a very eye opening experience for sure, and back then HPV was just starting to be a “thing” that you heard about so it was super hard to find information and whatnot about it. I started out with going to the health department which in my experience wasn’t too awful bad, but I did end up at a very super sketchy dr office that I am super glad that they didn’t end up doing a procedure that day , because the procedure is typically done at the hospital and they /the place super gave me the ookies!
Luckily I found a DR that was right up from the house and she was actually one of the top 50 OBGYN’s in the US and she talked practical, didn’t make me feel like I had done something wrong and she let me know that I was going to be o.k. I had several small procedures, 2 surgeries (including the one they almost did in the sketchy dr’s office) in the Winter of 2007 and at the last check up I done the HPV markers didn’t even show up anymore!
So. If you are a girl out there reading this.. take it from me… be safe. Don’t let some guy be the reason you have to go through something like this- use protection. You can bring your own- you don’t have to depend on any guy to take care of it. If he doesn’t want to wear it for some stupid reason (and they are all stupid reasons pretty much in my opinion- ) then don’t do it. He doesn’t care enough about you, believe me. I know people tell you these things and I had been told as well but it is true! Actually with M I 99% had condoms in a drawer that he just simply wouldn’t use believe it or not!